How do people deal with trying events that alter their lives? The passing of a loved one, loss of a job, serious condition, and other distressing events without an overflow of strong emotional reactions and a sense of doubt and ambiguity.
It’s called resilience. Resilience is the practice of altering well in the face of hardship, suffering, catastrophe, pressures or substantial causes of anxiety. Being resilient means "bouncing back" from challenging experiences.
Studies have revealed that resilience is normal. People normally show resilience in moments of unimaginable hardship and distress. Nevertheless, being resilient does not mean that a person doesn't experience concern or suffering. Emotional pain and grief are normal in people who have experienced significant adversity or trauma in their lives. In fact, the road to resilience is likely to involve substantial emotional distress.
Resilience is not a characteristic that people either have or do not have. It encompasses behaviors, feelings, and actions that can be absorbed and developed in anyone. Here are a few things that I have done to become more resilient.
True relationships with family members, friends or others are truly everything to me! Accepting help and care from those who love you and listen to you reinforces resilience. Therefore, I tried to surround myself with my people. The people who make me strong, who accepts me for who I am but also call me out on my BS. I am free when I am with my people, and I feel safe, even when I am vulnerable. Who are your people? Do you spend enough time with them?
A crisis is not an insuperable problem. You can't change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. Try looking beyond the present to how future circumstances may be a little better. Note any subtle ways in which you might already feel somewhat better as you deal with difficult situations.
Accept that change is a part of living. Certain goals may no longer be achievable as a result of adverse situations. Accepting situations that cannot be changed can help you focus on circumstances that you can change.
Move toward your objectives. Do something regularly even if it seems like a small success that empowers you to move toward your purpose. Instead of focusing on tasks that seem unattainable, ask yourself, "What's one thing I know I can achieve today that helps me move in the direction I want to go?"
Take important actions. Act on adverse situations as much as you can. Take important actions, rather than disengaging entirely from difficulties and stresses and desiring they would just go away.
Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very uncomfortable events, try to consider the stressful situation in a bigger framework and keep a long-term outlook. Avoid blowing the occurrence out of proportion.
Maintain an optimistic attitude. An optimistic attitude enables you to expect that good things will happen in your life. Try envisioning what you want, rather than agonizing about what you fear.
Awareness. Pay attention to your emotions and feelings. Participate in activities that you enjoy and find comforting. Taking care of yourself helps to keep your mind and body aware of how to deal with situations that require resilience.